In reading goals I see that for me I have to stop being so concerned over what she is doing and her being in her phone. Not because it angers me but because it effecTs me in a negative way. I don't like being angry and resentful.
Bingo! Stop doing this. Not to save your M. Not to manipulate her into believing you are this or that, but because it angers you. Focus on what makes you happy. Become a happy guy only a fool would leave.
I can also give you some advice from her perspective. My H constantly expected me to clean up financial messes. He created HUGE messes throughout our M. He would throw a letter from the IRS in my direction like it was nothing. I would open it and see we would owe a couple thousand, and he would go out that night and spend 80 bux on a bottle of cologne for himself. I would say, "They will shut off the electric if we dont do x,y, and z" He would not do it and he would just expect me to fix it. I built up years and years and years of resentment.
The day I kicked him out I have been watching him to see if he fails financially. Your W may watch you as closely. I suggest you read about budgeting and money. Not just for your M, although, you showing responsibility in this area will definitely help, but do it for you. You will be amazed how your life changes with a budget that includes a savings account.
Me: 42 H: 45 M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs D: 17 D: 15 S: 12 I kicked him out 8/21/15 I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!
