Maybe it is and maybe it isn't, but I felt lead to ask her to just "Stop everything and agree to come to talk to someone with me." to which she told me "I will consider it."
As a Christian, it is often difficult to be able to separate what we feel "led" from our own emotions/desires. As a former WW, I can tell you that what you are wanting to tell her is pursit, and it doesn't work, Chris. Having faith in God is when you totally throw your hands up in the air and let go of the rope you are pulling. God doesn't need your help, in order to work in her life. (I don't mean that to sound like I'm being a smart a$$). I am trying to pass forward what it took many years to learn myself. I was always trying to assist God, or tell Him what needed to be done. It is not easy to remove ourselves from the situation, drama, or personal life of someone very important to us. However, it can be done.
It usually gets much worse for a WW before she makes the right decision. The more people in her "group" that encourages the A, the more difficult it may be for her to ignore their influence. Here's the painful truth, Chris, you cannot control that part of her life. You have to step away from her and put her in God's hands. He may have to take her to the divine woodshed before it's all over........but He will get her attention, if she is a Believer.
Most every WW that I recall has had to experience the reality of their bad decisions, before they would even try agree to think about working on the M. She is living in a fantasy, but if you don't enable her to continue this lifestyle, and if you will move forward instead of clinging to her emotionally......she could turn around. It takes a loooooong time. I mean LONG, b/c she is wayward. She has resentment, disrespect, and rebellion in her heart. Selfishness motivates everything she does. You can go on about your life, and whenever she sees OM for what he really is........and when her fantasy starts to crumble, she will probably find you. She has a process she must go through. Just get out of the way, and build a life without her, b/c this is not going to workout quickly. The faster you emotionally drop her, the faster she will start experiencing reality.
As I read through these boards, SANDI continues to just spew TRUTH. This is EXACTLY WHAT HAS JUST HAPPENED TO ME...almost sickening because its so identical to everything that's posted here.
If any man has a WW, I'd advise them to read, reread, and reread all of Sandi2's WW posts and her recent posts as well. There is nothing more valuable.
Trust in God. That means really letting go, work on yourself, GAL, and believe that whatever outcome occurs, it will be for the best. That may mean bringing your wife back because you all are better for each other now (sometimes we need to go through this in order to learn life altering lessons), or it means there will be something brighter and bigger than you could have ever imagined in the future. Believe it.
It is not easy to remove ourselves from the situation, drama, or personal life of someone very important to us. However, it can be done. 