Sandi, Again, all valid points. I guess every case is different because everyone is different in how they react and handle adversity. There are many variables in every relationship. You are so right when you say that a WW is not the woman we married. My W is unrecognizable to me now and is definitely in the fog. There is little to no reality going on in her head. My thoughts on snooping was that exposure may help clear that fog. Maybe this works when the WW is still in the "I'm unsure" phase, but not this late. I waited too long. As for the depth of going public with the A, it depends. Generally speaking, I'd say to blow it up hard. It is what seems to work best, based on threads that I've seen. It is embarrassing for everyone once it is out there, not just the WW. The LBH also exposes himself and his children to the public when he blows up the A. It would be a clear double standard if a WW cheats and then gets angrier with LBH for exposing it. WW cheated, deal with the consequences. What would W do if it were the other way around?
