The begining of the rest of my new life? (3)

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Initial thread:
When is kindness enough? When is kindness enough?

Second thread:
Parents: help me parenting while separated (2)

A brief history:
We met in 1998, started dating in 1999.
Started living together in 1999.
We got married in 2003.
Our first kid was born in 2006 and the second one in 2008.
Very much in love until 2008.
I am from the mainland and W from this archipelago where I started working.
I knew I wanted to live in this paradise forever. Wife didn’t.
I resisted moving to the mainland the best way I knew: by avoiding talking and expressing emotions. By passive resistence.
We grew apart.
I got a job abroad in 2011.
Wife and kids joined me in 2012.
We kept doing the same things, each one living its parallel life.
Stopped having sex in 2013. Being the high drive I could no longer stand the rejection when looking for physical closeness.
I took W for granted and thought vows would hold us forever together, so although unhappy I would live like that indefinitely.
Having become a house wife made W deeply unhappy.
W depressed from January 2014 onwards.
BD in June 2014.
Complete shock.
Pursued, begged, cried.
Things kept getting worse until December, when W had a psychotic event.
Between January and June I applied DB principles the best I could.
Lots of introspection. Found I was afraid of W and a nice guy.
Focused on the kids, became even better dad than before.
June 2015 a small miracle happened: with me no longer pursuing, W got closer and closer and I started expressing emotions.
We reconciled. ML for the first time in two years.
We were a family again.
July 2015 W flies to home country with kids and I stay behind working.
W calls and tells she needs space so we should stop all contacts.
When I fly home for summer vacation in August she announces she wants to D me.
Back in this foreign country she finds a new flat.
September 7 we tell the kids.
They don't take it well and cry for hours.
Until the end of September we live as a happy family.
W and kids move out on 1st of October.
Routines are established: The kids sleep over every other weekend and every Tuesday and Thursday.