I feel your pain and resentment. Sometimes I just want to throw my W's phone and iPad across the room. Don't know if your W is talking or texting. My W texts only. I can see the anticipation of the om response in her face and body language. I think it would be harder if she was talking to om on the phone instead of texting.
Hang in there.
Me:44 W:38 T:10.5 M:7.5 D:3 BD: 7/2015 W moves out of MBR: 9/2015 WW files for D: 2/8/2016