Dear Wet, I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad's state of health. It's good to hear that he isn't in pain and is remaining active too. I'm sure you'll enjoy some special moments with him & do take care of yourself.
Very best wishes xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Spend as much time as you can with him. Are there stories you could record that he likes to tell? Build some new and special memories now.
Hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Thank you to all who posted about my Father. He continues to be pain free and in good spirits.
D18 arrives today from Boston. W had not given me details about the flight and so I assumed she was picking daughter up. But then a text this morning from W asking me to pick d18 up from the airport. I agreed without comment.
W then volunteered that her body was in "pain overdrive" (she has fibromyalgia) and that she was cleaning up for a party at her/om's place tonight with friends and family.
Ok, I decided to check the FB status for W and om - it's been months since I've snooped, so I wanted an update. I found out that om has removed his status as being in a R with my W. But he continues to have pictures of them together.
This must mean W has left om!!! Ok, I wish there was a 'sarcasm' emoji when I post. Nothing has changed and I don't like W and om having d18 and s14 staying with them and seeing them living together. All plans for W to start D proceedings in February are continuing full steam ahead.
Yesterday I picked up d18 from the airport. She looks healthy and happy.
She hadn't eaten all day so we stopped for a bite to eat. We talked. D18 is amazing - she is fluent in Spanish (she lived in Argentina for 2 months last summer), she is taking French at school, and is doing a self study of German. Who has that much brain space?
D18 does not want to stay with W b/c om is living there. She told me that she would be staying with me for most of the 2 weeks she is in town. This made me happy!
I had a quiet but fun New Years Day - I played some old 'Talking Heads' music, I studied, I put together an the start of an outline as I am leading next week's study of our men's group, I read, I watched movies... It was fun not having to be anywhere today and not having any responsibilities other than to clean a bit more than usual - d18 is a bit of a germaphobe.
I normally have s14 on weekends, but I understand that he should spend some time with his sister (d18). We will see what happens tomorrow.
S14 called me out of the blue last Sunday and asked if he could come over to my place to watch the Vikings game with me. We hung out together, he ate a lot of food (smile - don't all teenagers?) It was nice.
I haven't heard from d18, but I will reach out to her tomorrow to see if she wants to come over to stay for a few days.
At Bible study last night an old friend who I have not seen in years attended for the 1st time. He had gone thru a d and took it hard. Violations of a restraining orders, jail, it was hard watching him go thru that. We talked for a bit, it was nice.
HNY --- hope your dad is still pain free and in good spirits. Just want you to know I'm following along and keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers xoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Thank you bttrfly. Yes, my Dad is still pain free. D18 (in town from her school) and I went and had lunch with my Mom and Dad. It's amazing how well he is doing with the cancer - I asked him if he is having any pain, and no, he has no pain even in his joints. He is sleeping well. Wow!
D18 is staying at W and om's place, but she has come over. We watched 'The 2nd Exotic Marigold Hotel', which was great.
I am just reporting here - Before I brought D18 back to W's place, I asked her if she and s14 were safe. Om has drinking and anger issues in his past. D18 volunteered that om is still on a pill that keeps him away from drinking. She feels safe.
But she volunteered that om and s14 don't like each other. S14 is being a teenager, and leaves food and dishes out, and om is the one to always clean up after him. But he shows s14 he is annoyed. (Yay s14?! )
He is also a smoker. W told d18 that om has "anxiety issues". And that he is not very intelligent and is racist.
The racism thing is something we never permitted, so this is surprising. Our oldest daughter is from India, and while she was growing up we always stood up to any stupid comments that were made around us. Add this to the long list of things I don't understand in W's behavior.
I thought about texting W with some 'clever' one liners, like:
- Happy 50th. With every breath you take you are moving closer to 70 years of age, than you are to 30;
- You are now so old that when you were born the Grand Canyon was just started as a stream in the desert;
- 50th birth day, hmmm. What is the Guinness book of Records for old people anyway?
Ok, my lines were not so much funny as mean. So I did the smart thing and I did nothing - no texts, no phone calls, no FB posts.
This morning W called me to suggest I take d18 to a movie, which I told her was a good idea. But I was preoccupied with work, and so I said nothing more. Not even a late happy birthday wish.
I feel I am coming off more cold than detached with W. But she is living with her om, and this is not easy for anyone to deal with. I am keeping our children as priorities as best I can.
