Well, our meeting was just an introduction. It was a little tense. The mediator explained the process, we talked about how we'd have to be able to communicate in order for it to work. Now, in front of other people my H is eloquent, thoughtful etc. But after we left things changed a bit. I was eager to get away, and he insisted we talk. We agreed that I get physical custody, we will probably share legal with me as the tiebreaker, but when he asked me when he can travel with our D, things went south. I said when she's 10, which of course didn't sit well with him. I said 8, same thing. I explained to him that she is currently too young to be an ocean away from me, but eventually yes of course he can travel. It's just hard to put an age on it.
I also mentioned me maybe getting a small bonus from his future earnings, then he got upset and said he could quit his job, then there will be no money. He was upset that he will have to buy plane tickets to see his D, but I told him that was his choice. He is the one forcing me to leave. Again, he disagreed. I ended up emailing him a bit later, saying "ok, let's try again". Later that night we texted back and forth about some other things. He invited me to eat breakfast with him and our D. This morning when he came to pick her up, he asked if we could talk about the company we've talked about starting together when he brought our D back. Of course. He comes back, he is in a hurry, is annoyed that I'm asking him to take some stuff with him or let me know if I can throw it out. Also annoyed I held him to his promise to throw out some heavy stuff for me before my upcoming move. Finally brings up the company in passing (he had asked for 30 min to talk about it) but things go south as he says we can't communicate as long as I blame him solely for me and D being forced to move overseas. I refuse to recant and he leaves. A bit later I email him: lets just do this. I'm super excited about the company. I think it could be really good" Hours later he emails me back: Sorry. I am scared too. I hate that we can't communicate. Let's talk company but also about everything else. I'm game if you are.
