HOPELESS & CONFUSED

[rich4j]

Hi
I am rather new here too and experiencing something similar in the "I want to be friends" type of approach by my W

I have been accomodating and am taking her friendliness and desire to engage the wrong way. As hints of we can make it, we can reconcile, we can we can...

It's all just for her to feel better about the horrible decision and selfish path she is going down. I actually feel bad for her and she is so confused and hurt. I own some of that...

Try to read up and take the advice of others here...some of it is awesome. For me it is counter-intuitive to winning back your spouse but what is the alternative? For some it seems this has worked.

I ordered the book and will read it quickly so I would do the same. Anything can help and I look at it as "its going to be a better place than where you are at now??" right ?? I feel for you and hope you can make things better if that is what you want...