Hoovering is a new word for me too lol. I wil try to use it once a week . New words for the new me :-)
LOL well at least I'm laughing now about causing such a stir with my hoovering! Do you know what it is?
Originally Posted By: IrishM
Continue what you are doing, I see it as baby steps. Don't expect him to one day say "what did I just do to my life and my family" . It probably took him a long time to get to be point and leave you. Of course they never brought it up and we are to understand the reasons without discussing it with us. Your 19 year relationship and my 17 year has no meaning to them. We didn't have a chance to work on anything.
I thought it was all baby steps too until tonight. I know I shouldn't have even had the conversation or allowed myself to hope so much, but it is so hard not to. I've probably destroyed all of the baby steps now anyway.
Originally Posted By: IrishM
They are irrational and we can't figure them out. They probably can't explain it themselves. Mine said she was confused, not sure what she wanted, needed to find herself. They are lost.
I hope he's not cake eating or trying to be "just friends" . Either way you will see it as time goes on then you can apply something new.
(Hugs) irish
Yes, you're right there! I think somebody already said to me on here that you can't figure out crazy. I have an awful feeling he is just trying to be friends. That certainly makes him crazy. Why would I want to be friends, after everything he has put me through in the past, and now this, destroying mine and our children's lives!? Oh yes, sounds like perfect friend material.
