So how Will you respond to this, Trumpet?

She said you can have access, then changes her password? pretty strong action there I would say.

Never Forget Rule #1

You can't reconcile until W goes NC with OM. Even then you have to give it time.

She says she needs time, but how much time are you willing to give?

She's fence sitting again which it sounds like she's pretty good at.

So what's your plan from here on out?

Do you push the issue to get a reaction or do you continue to GAL and do your thing?

Nice truth dart about asking her what she would think, BTW

here's the big thing to remember:

if she wants to continue to contact OM, there is nothing, NOTHING you can do about it. You can only decide how you will respond to it.

Here's what I would do:

don't have that conversation with her. She'll tell you when its over with him.

detach. YOU will not put up with her continuing to play you that way.

keep up the GAL.

detaching and GALing was working for you; do what works.