IP - Oh, I hate to do this...I really do. Please do not let yourself get your hopes up after one decent encounter. It was nice, a pleasant change. Do your best to leave it there for now. (I'm wasting my time, right? LOL)
It's when he starts doing repeated good actions over a period of time that your hopes can start to rise a little.
Who knows what is going on in their heads? Nothing you or I would recognize, that's for certain!
Now...quick question...just curious. Which continent are you on, that you say "Hoovering"?
:'( It's OK Ancaire, too late anyway. Yes, you were wasting your time telling me not to get my hopes up. Yes it was all a load of cake eating, false, mind bending *$*% and now I'm sitting in tears.
Last night around midnight H text (3 hours after he left here) asking if he should get an item for tonight's tea that we'd all been discussing while eating the roast he cooked yesterday. I waited my usual ten minutes before replying yes. So he's gone home and is thinking about things then, I thought.
H came this morning so that he could take D to school but as usual came extra early so he could see S as well. He said he hadn't got to sleep until 4am as he just couldn't sleep. Hmmm, things on your mind H? I forgot to ask him if he could collect something for D as he is off work today so I did break my NC rule and text him while I was at work. He said no problem.
He picked D up from school and so was at our house when I got home from work. I started cooking what he'd brought for tea. He has stayed another 4 hours tonight and has treat me like there was nothing wrong, it was like old times again. S even commented when H went to the bathroom that H was acting like nothing was wrong between me and H. After sitting in 'his' chair for several hours he suddenly got up to leave saying he had to be up early in the morning. I asked him if he could just give me his work schedule before he left, he did, no problem. He pulled his usual pained half smile half I'm sorry for what I'm doing face at the door and that was it. All DBing out of the window. I said we need to talk about things at some point. He said we already had. I looked confused and said, "Not enough of a conversation for a 19 year relationship." (I know, give me the 2x4s!) Then I said, "So you're definitely divorcing me then?!" He said, "You know all this, we've talked about it." Then he said he's really tired, he wasn't lying about having hardly any sleep last night and that he was still waiting for passwords so that he can look at banking. I told him again that I wasn't happy about writing them down but he was welcome to look anytime but he never asks when he's here. So, there we have it. The last few days have clearly been...what?! I don't even know. Cake eating? Deliberate twisting of the knife? His effort to be a better father? Or maybe he has some foolish notion that because of my DBing and me not mentioning anything for so long and acting all happy, that he actually thought I was OK with everything now and was prepared to be his friend? Sobbing my heart out. Again.
Oh and I'm in UK Ancaire, is hoovering not what everyone says lol?
