Still learning AU Bob

[AU Bob]

I go to a trivia night every wed night its me and six other women. Three of them are no longer with their partners. Its facinating listening to the things they talk about. They dont hold back on the subject matter because im there. Its quite an learning experiance to see and hear how women have changed over the last few decades.
It's a learning experiance to hear what the three unattached girls are looking for in a man, they quite freely talk about it to me.
They were talking about body image and that for most women a potential partner did not need a six pack and muscular body it was ok to be just reasonably in good shape. They also said the men were more inclined to look for women who had the body god gave them, not a surgicaly altered woman. I found this interesting.
The reason i mention this is i think it has some relevance to my sitch. I always wondered if i was good enough for my wife, and used to do things to try and prove it, nothing heavy, but i think it was damaging in a small way, and was one of the things that contributed to her WA.