Tfish - sometimes, it is worth the effort to turn to the person who gives the "move on" advice and say: so, if tomorrow you fell into a deep depression, people should turn their backs on you ASAP? Or, if the person has a child ask: if your child became mentally ill should his/her spouse jump ship immediately? That advice, to me, is extremely cold. People forget there is a human being behind this depression.
Keep taking care of yourself and your children.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
