Separated- Wife in Emotional Affair

[sandi2]

I pray to God daily that he will wake her up before it is too late and she is hurt, but I know that may not be God's plan in her life.

You also have to take into account that your WW has free will. She isn't going to let go of that disrespect, resentment, and rebellion easily.

I had another poster tell me that my posts were not what he wanted to hear. I realize my talent may not be edification. I do, however, try to get the information to you as best that I can. I don't beat around the bush when I know you need to get all that you can get under your belt.

When I was wayward, I reached a point of needing someone to talk with me.....b/c things in my fantasy wasn't going as smoothly as I wanted. I "accidently" found my way here. You see how God can work? It was the folks on the board back then that gave me the information I needed. I made a decision based on the right thing to do. My heart wasn't into it. I had so much resentment toward my H. I had lost respect for him, and of course, I was rebelling. I had a lot of stubbornness and pride. It took two years before I would go to him, brokenhearted and ask for his forgiveness. And that was with me praying and asking God to help me feel remorse for what I had done. It seemed to have taken ages for me to get even get interested in working on the MR. I had a hard struggle with depression, and still have to take medication. It took quite a while before the loving feelings to return to me. As Christians, we learn to walk in faith and the feelings will follow. I knew it, however, it was very hard for me to do.

I shared this with you, not to discourage you, but to try and show you how it takes so much time for a WW to process this stuff. She has her own mess to work through. Stuff that started a long time before the OM came into the picture. Of course, I had been married decades before I had my A, but the foundation had been laid for a long, long time. Once all the circumstances were just right.....or wrong, I was vulnerable for the taking (so to speak).

I know that God can work miracles. It seems, however, that when He deals with His children learning a valuable lesson ........and b/c of their disobedience and stubbornness......He allows them to learn the hard way. A miracle would be much too easy, and therefore, it would be too easy for them to slide right back into the mudhole again. So, keep praying for her. Remember, God's timeframe and our timeframe is not the same. Stay focused on Him. (Chris)