Thank you all. There's a lot to take in here.
Tx, that is a good quote. I wish my W had friends that would say that to her. Investigating and exposing an A with a spouse who already stated that she wants a D is tricky, but there is nothing to lose and possibly nothing to gain but more heartache.
I will proceed with caution.


Me-40's
W- 40's
Married 22, Together 29
BD#1- 6/15 W needs space
BD#2- OM confirmed PA 1/8/16
Still both home, but not for long