M 43 W 45 M 10.5 T 15 S 26 D 17 (previous relationships) ILYB 12/25/15 + asks for D Confirm affair 1/10/16 W has D ready to sign, but agrees to wait for refinancing to go through (I get a house!)
Can anyone speculate on a timeline on this (getting over the wandering mind / emotional side)? I know things will be ok, and that people probably have different time frames for healing. Is there a general time frame? How long for most of you?
M 43 W 45 M 10.5 T 15 S 26 D 17 (previous relationships) ILYB 12/25/15 + asks for D Confirm affair 1/10/16 W has D ready to sign, but agrees to wait for refinancing to go through (I get a house!)
Can anyone speculate on a timeline on this (getting over the wandering mind / emotional side)? I know things will be ok, and that people probably have different time frames for healing. Is there a general time frame? How long for most of you?
The key is to GAL. This will help you put your focus elsewhere. It takes a lot of time and effort. One step and one day at a time. For me, the first 2 months were he11. The more I stayed busy, the better. It took me 13 months to completely detach.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Can anyone speculate on a timeline on this (getting over the wandering mind / emotional side)? I know things will be ok, and that people probably have different time frames for healing. Is there a general time frame? How long for most of you?
I remember trying to compare me to everyone else, but theres just no way. There are so many factors that me seeing it takes 5 months or 5 years for me shouldnt rally be a barometer for you.
Instead, think about what things you can do today to help you heal. What are you doing for shreeve today?
Azzork is right. Nobody knows and it doesn't matter. If you attach a timeline to an outcome, you will come away disappointed.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Great input - thanks! I am doing great today, have been able to focus on my work better than I have previously. Wife called today from paralegal, needing some info. She's definitely going through with it and having no second thoughts. Didn't bother me too much as I have accepted that the divorce is imminent. Still exercising daily, eating right, and GAL.
M 43 W 45 M 10.5 T 15 S 26 D 17 (previous relationships) ILYB 12/25/15 + asks for D Confirm affair 1/10/16 W has D ready to sign, but agrees to wait for refinancing to go through (I get a house!)
Is it normal for the walkaway wife to continually compliment my character?
M 43 W 45 M 10.5 T 15 S 26 D 17 (previous relationships) ILYB 12/25/15 + asks for D Confirm affair 1/10/16 W has D ready to sign, but agrees to wait for refinancing to go through (I get a house!)
Yes, when the WW is feeling guilty for the pain they've caused you. It won't change their actions but it makes them feel better about their treatment of you. My W told me I was the best person she knows and much better company than the OM! Doesn't stop her living with him though! Take it with a pinch of salt.
Thank you so much, I was getting some confusing false hope from that.
M 43 W 45 M 10.5 T 15 S 26 D 17 (previous relationships) ILYB 12/25/15 + asks for D Confirm affair 1/10/16 W has D ready to sign, but agrees to wait for refinancing to go through (I get a house!)
