What are your thoughts on blowing up the A by snooping?
I don't think any site like this has everything figured out 100%. I love this site but I love 2 or 3 others too. Dr. Harley's exposure 101 is spot on in my opinion. I base that opinion on the % of success it has had and the number of times I've personally seen it work. In my own case I was following the DB way and basically stepping back and allowing my WW's disgusting behavior to continue unchecked. Well, continue it did, for way too long. You know what changed it? The other betrayed spouse found out and destroyed both their lives. When I say destroyed, I mean destroyed. Did she overdo it? Maybe, maybe not. I know it worked. Even though my wife and her husband weren't co-workers the OBS still blanketed the parking lot of my wife's company with fliers she had made that showed my wife's LinkedIn profile photo and then a stillshot from their security camera catching them in the act. She wrote a small paragraph basically saying are you aware that your Director of Finance is a lying cheating whore that sleeps with other women's husbands? She put them everywhere. It is a very conservative financial services company. My wife was asked to resign that day. They just didn't want any of this drama on their doorstep. She also got her husband fired because he had used company resources/trips to carry on affairs. She was the betrayed spouse from hell. Today her ex hubby is nothing. He lives with his mother and works as a remote consultant from mom's house where before he was an assistant vice president. She destroyed him.
Am I saying to blow it up like that? No. I'd say read exposure advice from the experts like Dr. Harley who have literally tens of thousands of saved marriages/recovery from affairs under their belts.
I know this. If you want your wife then you have absolutely ZERO chance as long as the A continues.
If he's married and the OBS doesn't know, that makes exposure very simple.
