I just read this post (haven't been to this forum in a long time) and I'm so very sorry about her pulling away again. At least you know you have turned every stone and given the R every chance.
It is tremendously difficult to have a R with someone who can't talk. I've struggled with that for my entire M.
I hope you'll check in and let us know how you're doing!
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17