B's 10-Week Bootcamp

[RosaLinda]

Great job this week B, except.....quit looking at your wife's match.com profile! You are just hurting yourself, and must realize that 99% of the stuff she writes on there HAS to be lies, to justify herself, a married woman, being on there, fishing for dates.

I used to read all of my ex's emails. He belonged to the Russian version of Facebook, and wrote to dozens of Russian women over the years, telling them how he was this poor abused man whose B of a wife was cheating on him, but he was staying in the marriage for his kids (cleverly did not mention that the "kids" were in their 20s and 30s LOL), and that he had been so broken hearted and empty until he met her, the newest conquest.

It hurt so much at the time, but I was sort of obsessed with reading them, and I justified it to myself that it was okay to read all his messages so I'd know what he was up to. I knew what he was up to, he was lining up EA and PA partners, and was just hurting myself reading his lies, and the women's answers. Had to quit cold turkey, but it helped my positive outlook a lot!

So, to sum up. I did 95% of the work for the kids this week. But I'm the [censored].

Thank God they have you. Just saying So, did she bring your son to the doctor yesterday, or did you end up doing that too?

While my kids were with me this week, I tried to remember to hug them and tell them I loved them every time I could. I tried to stay present in every moment that I had them with me so that I was being their Dad, and just a distant grown-up going through a crisis that was responsible for them.

And don't think that they won't remember this, B. You are their rock, their fortress, their stability in a world turned upside down by their crazy mom. Hopefully your wife will appreciate you too, someday, and not just take you being such a good dad for granted. But even if she does not, they will.

I was sort of surprised whe,n after over seven years of craziness, I told my sons that I had filed for divorce, and they both told me that they were proud of me! Flabbergasted. So don't think your kids don't see what you are going thru.

Then she says, you know, this is why we aren't married anymore (Making a hand gesture between us) because you've been like this for so long and are just an [censored].

I smiled. Got in the car and drove off.
And that was it.

Good job! Bet THAT made her head spin in surprise

Today's homily in mass was about 'Be Not Afraid' and learning to hear God's will. That's what I took from it, and that's how I plan on living this week. I'm going to forge into this week, and be not afraid.

Nothing to fear when you are trusting the Lord, right? No one can know what your wife will decide to do, but we all know the ending for you - BFice will end up a great man, beloved by his children, and in good physical and emotional shape for a new relationship, whether it's with your wife or someone else. Who will have passed ALL his exams! So forge on my friend. You are doing great, truly a different man from the man you were last October!