The first time she did it, she was ornery and upset. She got home last night, sent me a text she was going to bed, and the kids were mine to deal with. She's still ornery this morning, and did tell me she talked with OM. Broke it off.
I trust the anger inside her - that seems to say she's hurting, which is what I expected on Monday. It's weird that anger and bitterness is what I come to expect, but it shows she's hurting from the loss.
I didn't like the phone conversation yesterday, but my wife saying she was going to break it off, and then her actually doing it, that I know was going to be tough. I pushed a little, but if she sincerely wants to start us up, she's got to start to let OM go.
I let her spew a little this morning while I made lunches for the kids. Made my lunch, she made hers, and I told her to have a great day.
No expectations of any calls or conversations. No expectations from me putting pressure on her. She'll have to work through the loss.
I'm hanging my hat on the feelings and emotions we felt together on Sunday. It was the really old, 1st 6 months of marriage 'us' - the great us. Passion and wanting to be with each other. I say 'we', but I really mean 'I'. From what I could tell, my wife felt the same way. Trusting what I saw then. Trusting the hurt I see now.
No expectations. Time to get back on the treadmill - my achilles hasn't hurt in 3 days, so I think it's safe to start walking. Really want to run a shamrock 5k in 2 months.
Does anyone have some rules to live by when trying to reconcile/piece? We should come up with a 37 rules by Sandi for piecing.
Patience, and taking it slow would be on the top of the list.
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)
