Reading over the last page of your sitch I saw similarities in our fear of abandonment. It sure does real havoc when it plays itself out in a relationship.
I also saw that you will be going to a support group at church. Hope that goes well for you. I'm planning to do the same tomorrow evening.
I went to a service at the church, and while I did not really like it, I still plan on using the support group if they don't mind me going. I went to a second service that day at another new church and found my new home church. So in one weekend, I found a support group and a new church that I like, although they are not the same place.
Me:34 W:33 R: 15 years M: 7 years W moved out: 11/21/15 BD: 11/20/15 - ILYBINILWY, PA once LRT: 12/14/15