First of all, a separation does not mean the end, even if your WW is threatening D. I think, based on years of reading these threads, that men fear a S, b/c they see it as being just a step to D. However, the WW/WAW just wants to escape, and sometimes S works out for the good of getting back together. She has time to experience reality without her H in her life (if he'll stay the heck away). It can be quite the eye-opener. So, try to relax as much as you can about facing a separation, and don't think of it as being the very end.
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The next question is how? I know about GAL and DBing in general, but it's the tough love to a WW that I have a problem with. I need to take the chance to show her a loss or two without backing down from it.
What do you mean about showing her a loss or two? Give an example.
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Like I said, there aren't many W on here as cold as she is so its hard to predict anything from prior experience.
Oh trust me, they've been here. We've had some doozies over the years!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
