I'm really fine, guys. I don't have anything to hide. He does, though. You ought to see Mr. Paranoid keeping all his devices tucked close to his side, all locked up and password protected. He's got thumbprint recognition on his phone! LOL
The thing about the forwarding? I asked him about it, and he looked shocked and surprised. Denied it, of course. But...it's not an accidental thing. I played with it a bit to see what you had to do.
I use G-mail to pick up my mail. So he had to go to settings, choose the forwarding tab, put his e-mail address in there, and wait for a confirmation code in his e-mail to enter. Then, an e-mail gets sent to MY account to let me know. He would have had to wait to delete that, too. It takes about 5 minutes to do...so it wasn't an accidental kind of thing. I took a picture of the screen with the forwarding address on there before I deleted it.
There's this thing about people who shamelessly abuse other people. They live in constant paranoia that someone else is doing the same thing to them. Forwarding private e-mail is not something that ever occurred to me! It's such an invasion of someone else's privacy, I can't even imagine doing it.
I'm not above snooping. I did it once in the early days to figure out just what the heck was going on. Once I knew, I didn't do it again...just too painful to me. I've also been guilty of peeking into Facebook a time or two to spy - but, I've since deactivated my account to prevent that activity. He really took a chance of learning something he didn't like, though. My mom has had a lot to say about his behavior - but we speak on the phone more than we e-mail. He really loves her, and what she thinks would crush him.
And then there's this possibility - What if I'd been contacting another man? He'd have flipped a lid! He's made it clear I'm not to be with anyone else. Just another aspect of "owning" me. He doesn't want me, but that doesn't mean he wants someone else to have me, either. It's like high school all over again.
I don't know what to make of it. He seriously looked so dismayed. Of course, he looked dismayed when I asked him if there was someone else, too - but something about his reply was off that time because my gut was screaming, "liar". It's not doing that this time.
Maybe I just don't care. That could be it, too. Nothing he does really surprises me anymore...and that's just sad.
