Don't know what to do anymore...

[Painter]

Zues, I'm sorry both of you didn't have the right tools to help your M years ago. It seems both of you were very patient and hung in there for a long time. All your hard work will pay off in one way or other.

I just went through a loop in my head - may not be groundbreaking, but maybe it can help someone: I was thinking about writing H a little card and put by the coffee maker, saying that I hope he has a good day at work and appreciate how hard he works to support us.

Then the little devil on my other shoulder reminded me of when he told me that his job is more important to him than our M.

But the tiny angel gave me a flash of insight: that it's probably because that's where he has found consistent positive feedback through his life. He's a high achiever and it's very important to him to be acknowledged for it.

The article mentioned how sometimes people with WoA LL can be perceived as conceited or needy - that is exactly what I've thought at times when H repeated praise he got at work, or talked about how they were so impressed by him. This article really hit home.