Hey painter. It was more like three years of not talking with a few failed attempts at trying to have a partnership together before we both would feel defeated again. I would say closer to no talking at all. Sometimes we'd pay each other little courtesies, such as I'd get her a meal as well when I picked something up on the way home, or she'd continue to buy things at the grocery store I liked. But it was pretty desolate. Defeated is the best word. After three years she started talking with other guys and eventually concluded we weren't meant to be together. I don't agree, but our M was definitely worse that bad.
As for words of affirmation, that is definitely a love language of mine. I think the best way to know what to do is to think back to all the things your spouse did for you...often their failed attempts to make you feel loved take the shape of what they long for themselves. Has H written you poems? Send you loving emails? Post-it notes?
The hard part about WOA is they need to be sincere, really sincere. But for me they are very important. You can actually see examples of this all over the forum (because that's all we can do for each other). Check out JB's last thread, or her posts to other people. Genuine positive words meant to show why we think that person is special, and admirable, and we are lucky to have them.
Why not write out your card idea here?
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
