Battles of the sexes?

[JulieH]

So husband called and asked if I would like to go out for lunch or early dinner for my upcoming birthday with the kids. He also said he would like to take boys out so they could pick up gifts for me.

This was really nice. I don't think he ever took kids out to pick up presents for me. Then again they are getting older now. And i did that for him for Christmas so maybe he feels like he needs to reciprocate to show he is a good dad?

Of course, for those of you who have come to know me and my very negative demeanor, I am afraid to take this as anything. Truly I think this might be his way of paving a road for reconciliation but without being accused of leading me on. I think DB coach (can't get a session for a while) would say to act as if and be a friend. It's so hard for me to not point out the apparent. I hate pretenses but I know that's what people have to do.

Could also be that he wants to show that we will be great at coparenting. We all went out for his birthday at his request several months ago, the day after his birthday because he was celebrating with friends and he was sullen and a few weeks later when I asked he told me he did not want to reconcile. So this could just be something weird he wants to do to put on pretenses for kids?

I think the only way I will think he is serious is if he asks me to go out alone somewhere. I am just doing nothing right now. No initiating, no questions, no complaints, no relationship talk. Still am mad at him though but trying to swallow it. I am positive he feels just as mad.