Hi AUBob, Sorry I misread your sitch. It just looked like you were having a lot of contact with your WW. I agree, I don't think being friends is where you want to be with the OM still around. I would follow Sandi's rules, detach and GAL.
Does your W call, text often and come over to your house alot? That is what it sounded like to me, but I may have misunderstood.
You may want to talk with D17 about when she is going to see your W that they should meet at your W's place and not yours. I'm sure that is a sensitive subject with D17. She may like having mom over hoping you get back together, but it isn't helping at this time.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5