G8r. Thanks for the support! I wasn't looking for a reason to give the "fired" speech. It just came up. Reality is setting in with her packing and moving out this weekend. I won't be able to show her my changes in a daily basis and hope she comes to me. If she was thinking straight instead of just trying to escape it would be easier on my mind. As right now she has her condo set up to move into. But she has left herself 5 evenings to pack all her stuff and though she has several "promising" interviews and has had some. She doesn't have a job to go to when she lives there. Who knows how long she will live there before she gets something. And that's on her. But she will have the boys and that's what worries me. If I was able to go to school and have the boys at the same time I would. Right now if I did keep them here( which she would fight me hard over) I would only see them 2-3 hours a day and that's not fair to them. Conversely this gives me time to think of myself. To do things myself. To focus on my studies and GAL without the worry of her judging or any walking on eggshells. The biggest issue I am foreseeing is the lack of companionship. That is a fear of mine I have to overcome. Will her moving away fix anything between us? Maybe in time. But that's not the focus anymore. I can't hold onto the hope of M as it very well could be done and I am working to accept that.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
W asked if I could sign some social assistance paperwork tonight. Is there anything I should be wary of involving that. I am going to read it thoroughly just Leary of signing things for her
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
So f'ing done with all this. I can't stand it when she sneaks off to go talk on the phone. I am done Saturday cannot come fast enough so she is gone and I don't have to see or deal with this anymore
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
Anyone able to advise me on what I should be doing while S is packing her stuff? Am I supposed to be watching to make sure she isn't packing things I don't agree with? Should I be disguising that as helping her pack or just be whatever about it. Pay no attention
It depends. If you are concerned she may take something that you don't want her to have, you can watch over her as she packs. If you are worried about it, then make a point to be out of the house.
I have seen in most cases the disput is usually over something that has sentimatental value. Lots of time, it will be something the LBH hasn't thought about, b/c he's still in shock about the situation.
I have also seen W's who caught the H gone, and literally strip the house bare. I know one woman who even dug up the flower bushes from the yard! He walked in the door and didn't have a chair to sit in.
You just have to use your own wisdom on this one.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Thanks Sandi. I'm not overly concerned because I have no problems anymore about calling her out on her bs.
I'm frustrated right now. She knows I will be gone for 2 hours tonight and she chooses to sneak off to chat on the phone while I'm home. I'm done with the disrespect. I don't want to say anything right now because S3 is awake and I want to at with him. Maybe I'll calm down after I get out for awhile
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
Going out sounds like a good an for you. The cold air will help clear your head. I just finished putting D3 to sleep and now I'm outside walking the dog. Usually go for a 40 minute walk in the morning and a 25 minute walk in the evening. Lot's of time that's when I get my best thinking done.
I know it [censored] that she disrespect you like that by talking g to the om while you're around her. I've become decent at ignoring my W's text sessions. It's like a drug for them. They need their fix.
Me:44 W:38 T:10.5 M:7.5 D:3 BD: 7/2015 W moves out of MBR: 9/2015 WW files for D: 2/8/2016
I do, I have, and still am. Try From ashes to new - Through it all Nothingmore - Hears to the Heartache Papa Roach - Wish you never met me Breaking Benjamin - Had enough
Me:36 W: 27 D2 T10 M:2.5 Filed D 1/14/16 BD: Sep 15 A Discovered: 11/17/15 She moves out 11/19/15
