This is just kind of a general warning to everyone, in case you're as trusting as I am.
Last month, I was aware that H had accessed my computer, and helped himself to some of my files. I promptly locked my PC down with a password, moved the physical location of the laptop itself so that it is always near me, and changed all the passwords to any websites I could think of.
What I failed to think of, was to check my e-mail account to see if my e-mail was being forwarded to another address. My L advised me to check today, and sure enough, there it was! Sneaky, hateful H was forwarding all my incoming mail to his e-mail address, while leaving a copy of all in my inbox, so I'd never suspect anything was going on.
I promptly disabled all forwarding, but the damage has been done, in that he's been reading all my communications with my lawyer. Whenever I've forgotten a password (including this site) and requested a reset, he now knows where I spend my time online.
I'm not freaking out about it. Just having to go through the irritation of changing all my passwords again. I am irritated, because we both got notice that we were supposed to keep ourselves out of one another's personal business, but when has that ever stopped anyone from doing it?
It hasn't affected my PMA at all, actually. It's just another nail in his coffin. That is quite the violation of privacy - but it totally matches his mindset that I belong to him, and he can do whatever he wants. I'm beyond tired of this.
Please be careful, my friends. Check all your settings in your e-mail accounts, protect your passwords, and erase your internet history if you're in a rancorous relationship like I am.
Pass along the warning, if you think about it. People do the meanest things when money is involved.
