It's as if he feels like he is doing some great thing sending a text every 2 to 3 days, when he would call and text dozens of times a day even when we were together and were only apart for 8 hours while he worked.
And it bothers me that he knows the kids are having a hard time. We went from being together all the time to barely ever. Their little world got torn apart and he doesn't care.
I do my best. I take them out. We play. We go to the park. We cuddle to watch movies. But mommy is not daddy. And to them the moon and the stars hang on daddy and his every word. I had a few slip ups. Had a few drinks with my friends while they were here. So text a few things I shouldn't have. But I'm back in the saddle the last day and a half. Not much but I have to start somewhere.
(((((((((((Rain))))))))))))
I just had to send you a huge hug after reading this post. I know exactly how you feel, I could have written all of these words myself. It is incredible how proud of themselves they feel for popping in to see their kids and how they seem to have convinced themselves that they are not hurting their kids and that nothing much has changed for them. Crazy! My H is exactly the same and has even said to our kids several times, "It's not really that different for you, I still see you every day most of the time." WOW. Heartless. One day I think they will be very sorry, because kids don't stay young and innocent forever and one day our kids are going to wake up and see exactly who was there for them and who put in a half hearted effort in their lives.
