Great posting and great explanation of feelings. My heart goes out to your W, she sounds to be in a horrible "place" Let the man upstairs do his thing, as you are.
You however, sound to be in a strong and clear place. We are very similar in our LBS "place" I can relate to exactly what you say, you are just so much better with the words!
Funny, my H is also doing great reconnecting with S lately, I will need to update some of that on my thread.
You are sounding clear on what you need to do right now, the future remains unclear and no decision needs to be made right now, so try not to worry about that. Focus on the now, as you are. I know we both wait for the answer to unfold...I am here right with you my friend.
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-