I understand your insecurities you had in your relationship. Your story is similar to mine in a way that this is our second time through this. When it happened to me the first time and she came back it was like nothing ever happened. We moved on from it and had several great years. But I was insecure. It was deep inside me and it probably came out as jealousy. I can't go back in time and change things.
Hi IrishM, good to hear from you. The crazy thing about my situation is that I think everything would have been absolutely great if I hadn't have had a slow trickle of uncovering and discovering more and more evidence of H still contacting OW over several years! (Not because I was deliberately looking I hasten to add, I found everything quite innocently going about my business cleaning, tidying or looking for some lost object!).
Originally Posted By: IrishM
Outings with the kids are great aren't they. Keep them busy. You said it was always you and them mostly because your H was working. It's a lot easier because the don't expect him to be there. Try new things to. Change it up and a lot of pictures. These are memories for both you and them. Those sitting on the outside looking in miss everything .
Yes, I love going on outings with my kids! H actually looked at some photos from my last two outings with them that we've been on since he left and commented what a great photo one of them was (it was of me and S looking immensely happy).
Originally Posted By: IrishM
Great that you did a 180 on your husband. His reaction to your interest in his work is super. It won't make him think more about your R or maybe it will. We don't know what's spinning I their minds. Do the 180 for you as well if it makes you feel good. If he notices great :-)
It does make me feel better about myself that I am showing an interest. Upon analysing why I haven't been showing an interest, I think it is because I had withdrawn my interest because he had shown little interest in making me feel secure after all of the OW discoveries.
