I can offer love / compassion / support or nothing or the opposite. I chose the first.
Have you read the Lighthouse Story?
The way I see it, you can choose to stand and shine brightly indicating the way home. But a lighthouse shines whether the ship sees it or not. And a lighthouse does not push or pull the boats, just stands strong and shining.
You should give it a read.
I dont think you should be offering love or compassion. But I think "nothing" isnt right either. Its more like love from a distance. Not exactly offering it to her, per se.
