I would stop all activities from your end towards initiating a separation. You don't want to divorce, right? I would not separate finances at this point. Let her take all the initiative, but be prepared (know what she can and can't do) and do what you have to protect yourself.
If you own a company together and have manipulated income on paper, you definitely need a good attorney. This is quite complicated and you need advise on your position.
You don't need to hire anyone at this point, just talk to a few and see what they say and what kind of impression you get of their knowledge. Don't chose an attorney because he or she is nice. Maybe go to a larger city to find someone, if it's limited where you live. Be clear about what you want - not create conflict or be vengeful, but protect your rights.
It sounds like she is financially very savvy and could steamroll you unless you have a good attorney. I recommend that you call today. The hourly rate is *nothing* compared to the financial consequences you're looking at for the next 15 years.
She doesn't have to agree in order for you to get primary custody. You said you have been working part-time in order to be the primary caretaker for your child? All judges prefer that children have stability, but access to both parents. They want the children to remain in familiar surroundings with familiar people, that's why I think you would have a good chance of getting the house and child support.
The difficult thing here is to separate the issues. It is very hard to realize that the person who is supposed to love you and protect you is actually willing to hurt you financially. It requires some compartmentalization.
Good luck and keep us updated!
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
