We had a talk today that started about her cell phone. I let her know that I paid off her phone and she needs to transfer it out to her own service. I will no longer finance her affair. I've actually been building up the courage to do this for a month.
Next I explained that I am not paying for her trip to Mexico and that I no longer trust her and will take over paying the household bills. Also I will not pay for her apartment when she moves out.
She got very upset and told me I was taking away all her power. I validated her and said again that is not what I am doing, I don't trust your choices anymore and need to take care of the household.
Then she said, then I won't leave the house! I'll stay! That's fine I replied. She wants to know if I will be fair or if she should get a lawyer, I replied with "yes I will be fair and not kick you out but you are free to do as you like."
We ended with me explaining that she has made her choice and she no longer gets to have me in her life, my love, friendship, caring, support, and financials. I am removing myself from the equation, I'm no longer a choice for her. Was that too much?
