Kyrie, for all you know the spew is all about his own shame and remorse. You have no idea what is really going on in his head, and you may never know.
All you really know for sure right now is that you and your H are in crisis as individuals and as a couple. Take the advice you have been given. Don't think about H's repentance right now or his sins. Take the space and time you need to do your own healing, and maybe H will do the same. Maybe he will not. Time will tell. In the meantime, his repentance and his fall from grace are not of your concern. That is between him and God. You will know when/if he has resolved his issues. And it won't happen soon.
Please take the advice you have been given, and know that it has been given with love and from experience.
