Husband and I are separated for 4 months. I was pursuing, but after talking to a DB coach, stopped stating last Tuesday. I usually get a couple of texts from him a day, asking how I'm doing, or things about the kids. Since stopping pursuing, I've gone days without hearing from him. New Years eve, I begged him back, and think I scared him off. My birthday was yesterday and I got one "Happy Birthday" text and didn't hear from him for 2 days before that. Has anyone seen this before when pursuing stopped?
Me- 50 H: 50 Married 25 T: 29 D 21 S 17 BD 9-11-15
Roxi -
I'm sorry you are here. I hate to say it but you are just starting in this battle for your marriage to survive. I know the minutes feel like hours so 2 days may seem like 2 months but like all successful DBers say, "trust the process". Have faith. This is were the GAL comes into handy.
Men are visual creatures. Get back to being the person your husband fell in love with. Take care of yourself, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. This will be the hardest times of your life. I'm 19 months in and I've just started seeing sings of progress. Take it day by day. There will be days where you feel like giving up; its normal. Keep pushing through and focus on being a more confident, better you and you will not go wrong, regardless of the outcome of your marriage. Keep your head up!
