(still reading through everything) but realized something: 2 priciples are opposing each other and they both keep me feeling like I'm going against my own principles. 1. As many, esp. Zues has said, marraige is more important than the specific sins (each of ours) but 2. An affair, including affair of the eyes (biblically speaking - and he has the same belief here) is unacceptable. Unrepentance is unacceptable. An affair can be forgiven. Unrepentance cannot. So that's what it comes down to. I've long felt like just being straight and asking: are you repentant? Because in the end, biblically, that's what makes the difference. I don't want to live a double life. A fake life. It's killing me. SO much to process.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
