Kyrie, no, you don't say you are dropping the rope. You just drop it. Its not like you are leaving him, you are still his w, but you are managing your own emotions. Don't get into it with him, just do it. Especially with your H, he will want to argue with you about it. Just do it.
If only it were that simple. Again, he *wants* to hash all this out. There's no way to avoid it.
You refuse STFU and walk away. By reacting in any way you feed his rage.
If you want to read my threads, my WH was a rage aholic. I eventually got it to stop by not reacting at all.
Only engage when he is reasonable.
These are his demons not yours. Do not engage with a rageaholic especially if they are drinking and in addict mode. You are not dealing with the person, you are dealing with the addiction.
I think Al anon is one of your solutions.
Several posters here are advising you very strongly what to do, including a vet 25. Your response is full of excuses, your children are hearing this, it needs to stop, it is exceedingly difficult for children to see their mother treated this way and not standing for herself and her children. It's time to call a stop to it for your own sake. I am concerned for your safety if your WH is this out of control of his addictionS.
You are enabling WH to use his resources to fund his addictions, have your own account, pay your bills request a contribution from WH.
This is full on addiction and it is severe, I very strongly recommend you attend Al anon tonight, not tomorrow but immediately.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
