Gut instincts are usually on target. Don't focus on where he was.
You can't change it. You can set boundaries. Maybe you need to start thinking about what boundaries you need to set. Obviously his drinking is a really big issue. Have you talked with anyone about this?
What does Cathy need to be happy and not focus on H? Are you better off with him at home? How long can you handle his disappearring acts? Do you think the fact that he comes and goes as he pleases is helping or hindering you?
I can honestly say that right now, with my H, I am at peace when not living with him. When I am at his place, I am always waiting for the "other shoe " to drop.
Think about what Cathy needs, focus on you!!!!!
Pattie
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
