No idea if this will help but when I start ASSuming CHL is with the S* I ask myself whether he is or he isn't, what does it change in my life and my actions? But by ASSuming he IS with her causes me lots of pain and may not even be true!
In your case the answer might be different than mine, but mine is at this point it doesn't matter. I can't control him and I'm only upsetting me and my actions should be no different at this point whether he is or isn't with her because at this point I still would like for him to come home.
This is rambling and I hope made some sense.
All that said {{{{{{{{{{{{Cathy}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
