The head of the house is supposed to love his wife like Christ loves the church. Did Christ spew venom on people (well, besides the pharasees?) No.
I'm coming from a Biblical perspective. Others on this board will come from other perspectives.
Yes, if he is head of household, he can make choices. However, is he taking your opinion into the equation?
A good question to ask, and has been asked at work:
Are you a leader or a boss?
Are you pushing the people you're responsible for, or pulling them to be better?
Boss's push. Leaders pull.
It certainly sounds like your husband is a boss. He could well learn some lessons in leadership.
How to accomplish that is a big question.
I am dealing with a WW, and I want to tell her she's wrong all the time. I have a pride issue, and the only way I can solve it is to realize I'm broken, and I have lots of things to fix, so that we can build a better marriage. Cleaning up my side of the street. My wife will respect me if I don't disrespect her, and she will respect the counselors who tell her what she could work on. I could say the exact same words as our pastor or counselor, but without respect, my words will fall on deaf ears.
Thus, why I said find someone to talk to. Get to the heart of your husband through someone else's head.
Trumpet, all those things are true, but I cannot be the one to say them. He trusts & respects no one. And yes, pride is the core of all our sins. Zues has helped with some aspects of what's in his head, as you say.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
