WW, My Addiction, Patience, and HOPE

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Feeling a bit deflated today.

Wife is talkative with me, but not about the R... which is fine, however...

She still has not called the divorce lawyer and pulled the filing. She said she's not going to serve, but hasn't made the call.
Also, she still hasn't talked to OM. While she hasn't contacted him in a couple days, she's hesitating to call/email/text him and tell him it's over.
She told me again this morning that I could have access to her phone, but I don't want to snoop if I don't have to - I want her to make the effort, to have the action of reconciliation.

She's happy to have me back as a happy roommate. I'm not happy with that.

Should I keep my appointment with the divorce lawyer? Should I pay the retainer? I don't want to.

I know we need to go slow. Should I be happy with her talking to me and not much action from her?

She reminded me it's been two days. I just expressed some frustration. Can I ask for action? How much is too much?