Late to the game

[Free]

I agree. Sandi's view from the other side is invaluable for us.
I'm doing what I have to do for me and my kids. That's my plan for now.
One thought I had on OM. He is not what I expected. A bit chubby, if you ask me. I was quite large for a while and lost a LOT since BD. Maybe W is a chubby chaser? Maybe my best chance is to put the weight back on?? Lol. Not happening.
What is the benefit of knowing more about him? He is not the problem, as I see it. He is a POS in my book, knowing she is M. Other than that, he means nothing to me.
Trust is huge for me. Maybe more than that, the innocence is lost. We were our first and only's. In today's world, I was always proud of that fact.
At this point, I think I'd rather be married to a reformed hooker than my W.
I'm feeling good today about myself. The emotional wave is peaking and I don't know why. I am sure I'll crash against the shore a few more times as this goes on, but today I am good.
As far as MC, I did ask her to go with me and it was a disaster. It might take one person to fix a M, but it definitely takes two to make MC work.
I hope you find yourself in a position some day where your W wants to put in some MC work.
I'm looking forward to hearing what you did about the A.