Although I would be cordial, I would speak to her like I would a supermarket cashier. Should have kept quiet because the W says that is what has pushed her away the most.
Bull. You cant believe what she is saying. SHE might believe it, but I reiterate... bull.
I felt the same way you did when I landed here. I felt that going dark was more of the same. It is not. You can rationalize it is a cheeseless tunnel to continue to ignore her since that is what got you here, but she really needs to feel what life is like without you. She needs to get a taste of the consequences of her actions.
But forget all of that. It does not matter yet what you do or how she feels. What is happening to you is so emotionally painful. If you live with her, you live on a constant roller coaster. Is she happy, is she mad, is she sad? Does she miss me? Is she thinking of OM? The list is infinate and your mind will churn through these questions repeatedly until you go insane. THAT is why you need to pull far away from her. Not to trick her, not to show her. But if you dont start to prepare for the battles she is about to bring to you, you will go through so much unnecessary pain.
Pulling away takes a ton of practice. And patience. You could be pulled away for years. Compared to the rest of your lives together it is not a long time, but there is no way to hurry it along. The only way for you to come out the other end of this okay is to focus on yourself only. Make yourself only a fool would leave and let her go as much as possible.
Me: 42 H: 45 M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs D: 17 D: 15 S: 12 I kicked him out 8/21/15 I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!
