Painter - I do believe you've hit it right on the nose! Since my H used the words, "I just want to date other people" - that practically shouts to me that he's bored and missing excitement. Also, he waited until our youngest had graduated. You're right, his goal is not to have responsibilities and obligations.
I feel so badly for him, for the path he's forcing us both to take as regards our family. I'm going to hold up my end to the best of my ability. I keep remembering the look of shock on his face last week when I informed him we wouldn't be friends, and then his anger following. He really expects me to be happy taking a back-seat in his life, but remain in it. I don't remember him hitting his head - but clearly, something has happened to knock his good sense right out of him.
I don't know what's changed in me, but something clearly has. I'm busy typing out my settlement terms. I'm ready to move on and leave him to his mess. For a man who doesn't want obligations and responsibilities, he's about to get a rude awakening. I'm going strictly by the law - and he's not going to like it.
It's sad - because I'll miss him like crazy (well, the old H.) I can't deny, though, that I'm feeling excited about starting my own new chapter. It's weird, because I'll still consider myself M, but I won't have a H. Huh. That'll take some getting used to, right? LOL
I have been in a great mood. I'm not sharing anything relating to me - I consider that my own business now. I really don't want to tell him, because "self-work" sounds anything but exciting and mysterious. As I get more and more in touch with my old self, I'll just see what happens as life unfolds in front of me. I believe in M. I meant my vows. I'm making the best choice regarding the "for worse" part of my vows that I can. Let him go. Work on me. GAL. Be happy.
This is a strange, strange frame of mind to find myself in, but am I ever glad I found it!
