Late to the game

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Mutatio,
To answer your questions:
-I am not going anywhere. If W wants out, she needs to get out.
-I would love to hear how you killed her A please.
-I don't know anything about OM, other than they work together. There are literally hundreds of people that work there and I know none of them.
-I'm not even sure how to bring it up at this point. I'm so used to avoiding any R talk because the last few did not go well. This clearly is my weakness.
-Is it a deal breaker? I think it is for me. Maybe its too soon to say, but I don't see any way I could trust her again or even if I want to.
Many of my friends throw around the phrase "It's cheaper to keep her". While that is very true, I do not want to stay married to someone that I cannot trust. After what I saw on Friday, a million things rushed through my mind. One of those thoughts was an incident a few months ago with W and her cousin. They were talking about one of those Las Vegas commercials. When I walked into the room, the cousin looked at my W and said "deny, deny, deny!". Then they both started laughing. The A was probably already underway at that point. There are many things that have been said by W that I cannot dismiss, especially now.
So, in short, my answer right now would be yes, it is a deal breaker for me.
-My kids are 21, 17 and 14.
-There are plenty of threads on here with WW or WAW and in a lot of them, the W is nowhere near as cold as mine. They will still do things as a family. Meals, holidays, etc. Not mine. There is no hello, good bye, good morning, good night. If she knows that one of the kids needs something, she will ask a neighbor. Even if I'm home.
W separates my clothes from everyone elses and will not wash them. She will throw out what is left from dinner so there is nothing left when I get home. W removed every picture of me in the house and replaced them with her family. One exception... About 6 months ago I had some dental work done. That same night, we had reservations for dinner because my S was leaving for college the next day. Needless to say, my mouth was a swollen numb disaster and I could not eat. W asked the kids to stand around me and she took a picture of all of us.
Lo and behold, when she replaced all of the pictures in the house, the picture from the restaurant surfaced and was placed front and center in the living room. For lack of a better term, I looked like special Ed. I think I was actually drooling in that picture.
That was the only picture of me in the house. It lasted 1 day and I threw it away. Frame and all.
Sleep well Mu.