I don't envy you living with an mlcer with those moodswings. He's trying so very hard to push your buttons and get you to snap at him. If at all possible when he's trying to needle you, like the bit about never going to a family gathering again, don't take the bait if you can help it. He's so looking to satisfy his desire for fighting. He may nt have gone to your family this year, but hopefully he'll be in a different, better frame of mind next year. His selfish behavior and desire not to go is so much replay and the temper tantrums of a juvenile mind. Unfortunately he's so in the "me" mode right now.
I hope you're able to avoid some of his antics and act as if to the best of your ability. The rollercoaster is tough and tougher when they're home, but if you can detach from some of his selfishness it will be a little easier to endure.
