Need support navigating the change in my marriage

[G8r]

I didn't see any results but I know I did the right thing tonight. I went to our enclosed patio with our dog to get her leash (I used to keep leash inside but W was fearful of D3 playing with it so I moved it to patio to acknowledge her feelings). Unfortunately, Wleft it open today and dog escaped. I eventually found her because I asked W to post on neighborhood FB page about it.

I didn't blame her for escape, just grabbed keys and went looking. Meanwhile she complained that I slammed the door as I initially left. Hmmmmm..maybe that happened because I was still holding the door as I started to chase the dog. Ran back in to get the car keys and told W I had to catch the dog since the door was left open, note that I didn't say she left it open. Then she complained that she didn't know leash was out there because I didn't tell her (bs) and that I should have held dog's collar. going out there.

I held my tongue and when I finally caught the dog thanks to a nneighbor's tip on FB, I thanked my W for her help posting and said it was a team effort. Instead of YW, which I wasn't expecting, she started complaining that the reason she left the door open is because she was expecting me to help bring in groceries that she purchased. She got mad about that because I cooked dinner and told her I would get them after dinner. It was plenty cold outside that they would be fine but she didn't like that and decided to get them herself. She also got mad at me for cooking dinner because she told D3 she could have pizza even though I told her yesterday that I planned to cook. W still not done complaining because she said that I didn't cook any for her despite me fixing a plate for her. I thanked her again for her help and that it was a team effort to catch the dog, then i told her I was going to bed. Good night.

A few minutes later she came to me in the MBR to complain so.e more that I don't communicate with her and we need to form a unified front when dealing with D3 because she told D3 she could have pizza. I wasn't as detached that last time, but let her do most of the talking.

I could tell that she was upset about the dog and she is regularly upset about us. Anyway it was nice to have her chain me around to communicate even if it was to complain. Felt some power.