Thanks Zeus. I have found posting here. Whether someone says something back or not is very therapeutic. It's a place to vent frustrations and excitement with feed back and guidance.
I know I am in denial. In the back of my mind I keep thinking we will be alright. She just needs time. I am focusing on changing that to I need time. I need to be happy. I can't be truly happy if I am dependant on someone for that. Other than my kids to a point. They always make me smile. It's not a quick fix either. I see what you mean by her head being in that place. I never thought of it like that. I saw it as nervousness and jealousy. Because that's how I wanted her to feel. Still very attached and think about her too much. And that's where my GAL is helping. Tomorrow is volleyball night and I have been looking forward to it since last week. Taking my dog for a walk every night is a pain sometimes cause it's cold. Once I get out it's great tho. Always looking for new things to do and ways to focus on me.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.